So much truth
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It is hard to be a fat girl. No matter how much you tell yourself how sexy, talented, amazing, worthy, fabulous, and genius you are, there is a pretty serious backlash that you are facing – on a minute by minute basis. And, I’ll tell you, I consider myself pretty tough and persistently body positive, but it is not easy to be kick-ass all the time. Especially when someone tells you point blank to your face that you are fat and you need to lose weight or you will… (insert really scary reason here – usually culminating in the fact that you will be fat, alone, and unlovable until you lose some weight).
And I absolutely guarantee that inside every phenomenal kick-ass fat positive role model is the tiniest inkling of doubt and fear, and every once and a while, when you are feeling a little vulnerable, even the toughest, most awesome girl can be tripped up, even if they refuse to admit it. I’ll even go out on a limb and say that I believe this so wholeheartedly – anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. This is not to say that we should just succumb to the cultural standards and get all weak in our knees when someone calls us fat – we will keep fighting and loving ourselves no matter what and becoming role models for other women to follow in our example, BUT there has to be some room for honesty in the equation. And honestly? It is not always easy to be a Body Image Warrior.
So much truth
I can remember speaking to a 12-year-old boy, a football player, and I asked him, I said, “How would you feel if, in front of all the players, your coach told you, you were playing like a girl?” Now, I expected him to say something like, “I’d be sad; I’d be mad; I’d be angry,” something like that. No, the boy said to me, the boy said to me, “It would destroy me.”
And I said to myself, “God, if it would destroy him to be called a girl, what are we then teaching him about girls?”
Also, what are the girls learning from this shit?
I knew who said that because I teach using the ted talk video. #nerd.
so stop fucking telling me to exercise and not finish my food, fuck off
1. Cross-stitch panel with the words “Women’s Work”, a picture of a house and two people drinking tea or coffee.
2. Picture of a laughing white blonde woman holding a white blonde child with the text, “If it’s done by a rich stay-at-home mom, work is difficult, noble and dignified.”
2. Picture of a brown-skinned, black-haired woman (labelled “Despised immigrant”) and wearing a maid’s uniform holding the same white blond child while vacuuming the floor with the text, “If it’s done for pay, it’s low-wage drudge work that anyone can do.”
3. Picture of the same brown-skinned, black-haired woman holding a brown-skinned, black-haired child while vacuuming the floor with the text, “If it’s done by poor moms, it’s considered idleness.”
Fat people who love themselves scare the shit out of people who don’t love themselves. Even fat people who are TRYING to love themselves scare the shit out of people who can’t do the same. We force people to have to look at why they hate their bodies because we are “supposed” to hate ours and we don’t. And sometimes they have no idea what to do with that, so they act like assholes.